Covid-19 | Being Pregnant During A Pandemic
Good morning friends, and happy 3 weeks of quarantine. You’re most likely coming from a friend of mine who shared this post, or an acquaintance who resonates a lot with this post - so if that’s the case, hey, you doing ok? It’s OK to say no, you know.
Although a lot of us are stuck at home, and although it may seem like an exciting and relaxing time for some… for others, this is torture. The thought of not having clients at the end of this. The thought of losing your business… or the purpose of this blog post, the thought of your mom or dad (grandma and grandpa) possibly not being able to meet your little one until this all goes away… it sucks. Yes, it sucks, and we’re allowed to feel this way.
Sure, most of us, who aren’t in healthcare, are isolated and stuck at home - but that doesn’t mean that our minds aren’t going crazy and thinking about the worst-case scenario - at.all.times. As mommas to be, I think it’s in our DNA and in our guts to not complain - to think everything is ok. But I’m here to tell you, these emotions are SO normal. Being someone who fixates on the positive on a day to day basis, being negative hurts - it hurts a lot. It hurts those around me to see me so sad, it hurts my mental state… it even hurts my poor dog who doesn’t understand why I’m so frustrated.
Those of you who know me, know that having control over my life and planning everything is a part of me… so is this a blessing in disguise for me to let it all go?
How many times can I rearrange the nursery? How many times can I sanitize one baby bottle? Losing clients in the pandemic has been one of the hardest obstacles, but now being at home without as many tasks to accomplish, with a baby on the way in less than 6 weeks… I may go crazy! I should have waited on that whole nesting thing…
I know that so many others have it WAY worse than me. Than you. Pregnant women are putting their health on the line to help others with this disease… yet do we hear them complain? Nope. Not that I know of… and I’m not here to complain - I’m here to let you know, that if you’re pregnant, you’re NOT alone in your feelings. We’re human. We think about the worst-case scenario and cling onto that feeling.
Being alone in the delivery room has probably crossed all of our minds. What if our husbands who are still working out in public contract COVID-19? What if they get screened and come up with a fever? Who will be in that room with you? In my case, my sweet mom is officially on lock-down and will not leave her home until I head to the hospital to deliver her first grandchild. This is not only a precaution, just in case my husband is sick, but she’s also doing this so she can be there for me postpartum for several days after she’s here. I’ve never done this people! Bringing a baby into the world is SO new for me, for my husband… the thought of not having help - terrifies me.
There are ways around feeling scared and alone. Communicate with your support system and see who is available to help you in this way. Think about who can stay home for work, who has a significant other who can do the grocery pick up, etc. Also - my biggest advice, avoid the news. Unfriend people on Facebook that continuously post negative articles. Protect yourselves.
XO, Delphine